There are so many unwritten rules when it comes to wedding planning. We get a lot of questions from brides, grooms, moms, and bridesmaids about etiquette, tradition origins, and personal concerns. This inspired us to come up with an “Ask A Planner” section of our blog which we will feature every Monday.
Q: My fiance and I have started to work on our guest list. I’ve heard that I should make an A-list and B-list, what’s the point? Does it make me cruel to label people as “B-Lister’s”?
A: In a perfect world, people would be able to invite everyone they know to their weddings. But unfortunately with venue space capacity and budgets to think about, accommodating everyone is not always easy or realistic. An “A-list” part of the guest list includes people that you absolutely will/must invite.
It may be hard to determine early in the planning process whether you will be able to send out invites when it comes to certain people {co-workers, friends you’ve lost touch with, a 3rd cousins twice removed}. In that case, you may want to play it by ear and see whether your budget or final head count will accommodate those individuals.
What’s even more important to realize is that “A list” and “B list” are just words and doesn’t define the relationship you may have with someone. It does not make you a cruel person, just think of it as a main list and waiting list.
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Comments 1
My people were placed in one of the following list
“A” – This was family and friends If they weren’t logged in my cell phone you didn’t make this list!
“B” – People we had to invite (family or close friends of my parents and close co-workers)
“C” – people that I should invite but really didn’t know well enough to make the A or B list
“F” – this was the list of people that I wanted to be sure did NOT get invited…LOL. Don’t act like I’m the only one with the list