Q: I’m finding it really hard to get the things I want across to my bridesmaids. By “things”, I don’t mean material items, but just overall expectations. I have two bridesmaids that have visible tattoos that I would like to be covered but I just have such a hard time trying to tell them without sounding like a bridezilla. The same feelings apply with telling them about the dress I picked out. I don’t know why I’m expecting the worse, but do you have any ideas for getting the information across that would make the process smoother.
A: You have very valid reasons for being concerned. As a bride you will be telling many people along the way what your wants and expectations are. The word bridezilla has been blown out of context lately. Having a specific vision or desire does not make a person a bridezilla- how they approach and act in certain situations do.
The issue with your bridesmaids that have tattoos can be a little touchy because some people feel as though their tattoos are a part of their identity. It’s best to talk to them privately and honestly about the subject to get a feel of their thoughts about it. The worst thing is to be pushy about it. It helps the situation when you offer a solution to the problem. Do a little homework on temporary tattoo cover-ups before talking to them and offer to pay for it.
As far as everything else, my best advice would be to put together a newsletter. They are a fun way to keep everyone abreast on updates, appointments, and everything else related to the wedding. Free templates can be downloaded at Microsoft Office Online. Having luncheons with your bridesmaids is also another idea. It can be an opportunity to get quality girl time in with your ladies and discuss wedding things in a stress free environment. Most importantly, remember why you picked these ladies to by your side. They should be the main people you feel comfortable talking to because they are an essential part of your big day. Good luck!
| Vanessa |